Dating after Betrayal

Written By: Miranda Hoffman 

Date: 4-6-2025

How to Date After Betrayal

Entering the dating world after experiencing betrayal can be extremely scary. You don't want to spend the rest of your life living in fear of it happening again, yet you desire the company of another person. This can be a tough road to navigate but if you work the process of recovering from infidelity it will come easy to you. 

I know easier said than done. But seriously if you truly want to start anew and gain that confidence back it is possible. The process I give in my workbook for signing up for this site is an excellent starting point. There is no exact science, but working the steps will defiantly help you develop your confidence and understanding of how you got to this place to begin with.

Alot of us loose our sense of self when we fall in love with someone, it's not on purpose of course, some of us are just naturally empathetic and get pleasure out of helping others. I am one of those people myself and tend to get taken for granted because of it. In turn my self-esteem suffers, and I completely lose track of what I want and find myself catering to my partner.

Unfortunately, there are people in this world that prey on those of us like this. However, it doesn't have to own you, and you can work through this trauma. It requires some work I will say that. Learning how to trust again and coming to terms with the mistakes that you previously made can also be hard. There are certain things we weren't exactly taught about relationships when we were younger. At least I know in my life it wasn't made all that big of deal.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             And not because my parents didn't care, but just maybe because they also didn't realize the importance either. You are probably wonder what I'm referring to at this point. I cannot stress the importance of setting up boundaries within your relationship enough! This is such a critical stage it can literally break you. By this not being a serious part of your dating process, you are setting yourself up for disaster and probably don't even realize it.

By not putting serious effort and setting consequences (and ones you will actually follow through on!) early on in the dating phase you're making the biggest relationship mistake you can ever make! The structure around having boundaries set up in your relationship right from the start defines your respect and self-worth within your relationship teaching your partner how to treat you.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            So, from the start define your boundaries let the person know you're not flexing on them and follow through! By not following through on the set consequences your boundaries mean absolutely nothing! Don't ever forget that!

I hope this resonated with some of you and you are connecting with the advice I'm laying out! Blessings and I look forward to your comments and questions!